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Hi Everyone, I’m new here and not sure exactly how to start.

I’ve been married for over 14 years, and we have an 8 year old son.  I have been a homemaker and stay-at-home-mom for 12 years (I had in-home daycare for 2 years while my son was young also.). before that I taught preschool for about 9 years.  I have attended some college but I don’t have a degree.  The past 6 years my health has declined. 6 years ago I was diagnosed with a permanent chronic illness that is progressive.  I’ve had to undergo medical procedures, many hospital visits, and surgeries since then.  I still valued my life, although I became pretty depressed at times and sought out therapy.  I had/have hobbies and love being a wife and mom.

My husband has changed his view of me since my health decline.  He spent more time away from home. I later found out that he has cheated on me multiple times.  He had been threatening divorce for the past few years, and I begged him to stay.  This past summer it finally got to a point where I felt like I just have to let him go.  We sold our house and  I used the equity plus my half of some inheritance money that we split to buy myself a new manufactured home so that my son and I would not have a mortgage. I even sold my car and bought a less expensive one to get this house.  In return I am planning to let my husband keep his retirement fund as trade for the house equity.  Trying to keep the assets fair.  We have seen a divorce mediator once so far, and she seems fine with him telling her about his income (from 3 jobs) and just going by his word of mouth for all the numbers.  I am so afraid.  I don’t have money for a lawyer.

I am trying to figure out how I’m going to support myself and my son.  I am 36 years old, In bad health.  I guess I’d have to go to college to even get a decent career, and I am not sure when my health will decline more. I’m just so so scared, angry, and feeling overwhelmed by everything.  I feel alone.

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