men suffer from divorce too..
May 30, 2016 at 6:49 am
I am a forty four year old man. I have been divorced twice. I have not seen any of my four children in four years. The two oldest girls are not legally my children anymore. I signed the adoption papers, under extreme duress. The two youngest, from my second marriage have disappeared off the face of the earth, along with their Mom. I have attempted suicide five times. On my first attempt, I was successful. I arrived at the hospital DOA. I have the paperwork to prove it. I have been incarcerated five times. Once for sending a birthday card to my oldest daughter. I have been homeless for long periods, living on the street, under bridges and in parks. I suffer from a serious mental illness that was precipitated or at lease made worse by the trauma of losing my children and seeing another man become Daddy, while I was methodically pushed to the limit of human sanity. In the end, I left the country of my birth and live in a third world country on the other side of the world. The man who married my first ex-wife is violent. He backhanded my seven year old daughter so hard that a large lump formed on her forehead. I went berserk, threatening him and calling him out of his front door. He would not come out, so I jumped on the hood of his brand new Ford F150 and dented it to hell. That was my first trip to jail and the impetus for the extremely restrictive restraining order to follow. The stress of this, along with the constant fighting between the two houses ruined my second marriage. In the end we were bankrupt with a twenty thousand dollar legal bill that we could not pay. When I left my second wife, I was a basket case. Soon, she and ex-wife number one were best friends. So strange how this happened, because during our marriage they were mortal enemies. She took a restrictive restraining order and just like that I lost all contact with all four of my children. I do not agree with the premise of this web-site. That one can have a peaceful and happy divorce. Not when there are children involved. A good movie that highlights the whole messed up divorce regime is called “Divorce Corp”. I would recommend it to anyone considering divorce. You might think twice. I guess the thing that bothers me most is the children. They suffer, no matter how amicable or controlled the divorcing adults are. They are the real victims in my mind. There is a reason that the Bible says that “God hates divorce”. As usual, he knows his stuff. Well that is pretty much all I have to say. Thanks for reading. If you want to read my memoir that goes into my experiences in more detail you can go to robertbenjaminmccrabb.com and click on “Man Dog Stray”.