I have two daughters aged 15 and 17. The 17 year old seems to be coping with our split but my 15 year old is having a really tough time. She recently found herself a boyfriend who she gets high with all the time. I have tried grounding her, I have taken her phone away but nothing seems to work. I have made appointments with a therapist who deals with teens but she refuses to go. Not sure what to do.
It may be a good idea to go and see a therapist yourself. Sometimes by changing what we are doing, it also shifts things for the children. Unfortunately you can’t force her to get help if she doesn’t want to but you can be there to support her as much as you can and leave the door open for conversation.
I have helped parents work through these issues and often find that when you tweak your behaviour the people around you start to change theirs.