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Melanie Dardanou

Hi Heather,

I know you posted a while back, but I can’t help but share since I totally felt the way you’re feeling. I was with my ex for 10 years, from the time we 20, and then divorced. I thought my life was planned out and straightforward. After we split I had no idea who I was and struggled to find myself. Not to mention I got fired from my corporate job during this time so I was also jobless. I don’t have kids, but I can only imagine how you feel.

My turning point came from doing a lot of soul searching. Instead of looking outward and worrying about filling my life with someone new or what others expected of me, I really started to figure out what I wanted out of life and what my purpose is. I worked on becoming aware of how I self-sabotage and how to love myself for who I am not my circumstances. It’s so easy to get caught up in your own circumstances and begin to define yourself by them. I got divorced, I am not the divorce.

And then found the determination to commit to a healthy lifestyle, taking care of my body and focused on looking and feeling great again. Fitness helped me feel good on the outside again and gave me a reason to get out of bed and feel productive.

After I took care of myself everything else seemed to fall into place; a new career, money and a new boyfriend that treated me right etc…

My advice for what it’s worth is; focus on knowing and loving yourself for all your gifts and get your mojo back by doing something to look and feel great again.

Hope that helps.

Wishing you lots of success.