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<span style=”font-family: Century Gothic, Arial, sans-serif;”><span style=”font-size: 14px;”>You ask “Is letting go of someone you are in love with because it benefits both of you wrong?” Absolutely not. My wife left me stunned when she asked if I wanted to split. We were married 26 years with three kids and I thought we were fine. She had changed somewhat, but I was still crazy in love with her and figured her new interests were a phase and they wouldn’t really impact us as a family. More and more, I saw she just wanted something different. I went through all the emotions. Shock was a big one. Sadness was bigger. Anger only lasted a short time. I still wonder sometimes why she felt she needed something different, but my friends and family keep telling me now how much better I seem. And I have to admit when the stress of wondering whether she might leave or not was hanging over my shoulder, it was way worse. It took me a long time to see that. It’s almost two years since she left. It got ugly a bit for a while why we sorted out the separation details (she had to pay me), but when the divorce papers recently arrived it didn’t really bother me near as much as i thought it would. You do move on. Two of my kids are mostly good with it. The third is still struggling. But they all love me and that means so much. A lot of words to tell you that basically, it does get better. Good luck.</span></span>