I have never read so many quotes as when I was going through my divorce, it seemed as though whatever quote that crossed my path was speaking directly to me, and it was just the one I needed to hear at that exact moment. My best friends, Facebook and Instagram, must have all been able…
I haven’t seen my 13-year old daughter, Rowan, for more than a week. And I won’t be seeing her for another three weeks, as she spends the rest of the summer with her Daddy. I know they went to Switzerland to visit friends, but I didn’t know the address or even who these friends were….
Lots of people seek out the services of a therapist/counsellor when they are at a point in their relationship when they feel it is time to move on. Typically people come in to see me when they are at the end of their relationship rope and are seeking the services of a therapist to see…
What are your actual needs? Determining them is vital. Many spouses are made to believe that they can obtain the moon, or the proverbial pie, so to speak, so they enter into legal battle fully armoured, armed and out for blood. However, battle inevitably leads to casualties, wounding and loss. Each lawyer promising the moon,…
After trolling in a FB group, dedicated to those getting divorced and then how to co-parent, I now feel I too must share all the negative traits of my daughter’s father, along with why and when he pisses me off as we co-parent, and what really lead to the dissolution of our common law marriage….
Co-parenting, whether living together or apart, loving or hating one another, is always a challenge. Different people have different experiences, opinions and values which inevitably leads to differences in parenting. It would sometimes be so much easier to parent if I could make all the decisions myself but alas, it doesn’t work that way when…
Unfortunately if you are in the midst of a divorce you quickly realize that your financial situation is likely to change. The reality is that you can expect to face significant financial upheaval and uncertainty. This can be even compounded further if your ex is involved in financial infidelity – hiding a portion of their…
We’re all familiar with the term “honeymoon phase”. It seems perhaps, like an odd thing to write about when discussing divorce, but I believe that there’s a honeymoon phase to your separation/divorce. And while I believe (from my own personal experience) that the first year of being on your own comes with many mixed emotions,…
I often hear about the trials and tribulations of step-parenthood which I understand as there is not a lot of support out there so step-parents can vent. However, I don’t often here about the fun and bonding moments step-parents have with their step-kids. I am sure there are many but we often complain. Like anything…
How do I know my marriage is over? My husband and I have been together for more than half of my life—we started dating when I was 23 and I am now 50. We have four children and a busy life. Our friends think we have the perfect marriage and our kids think we are…