Dan, a motivated and accomplished father in his 40s, reached out to me over a year ago on the recommendation of a fellow coach. He was already divorced a few years earlier but was dealing with ongoing litigation with his ex-partner about financial matters as well as co-parenting issues pertaining to his pre-teen daughter. His…
Divorce touches all of our lives, either directly or indirectly. In our very “modern” world, we enact many rituals: those marking birth, graduation, puberty, death, etc., but when we face the profound death of a marriage, we offer no ritual for the divorcing couple to grieve their loss together, no way to say good-bye with…
The following article is written with the intention to help you in the early stages after your husband leaves. It is a time to reflect, mourn, get your act together and prepare for legal issues and potential battle. It is also a time to empower yourself to be strong and if you have children, to…
As I write this I can’t believe how stupid I was! I mean the warning signs were all there but I didn’t see them. Either I was completely unconscious or I was in serious denial. My wife and I were married for 15 years. We actually had a great marriage at the beginning. We…
As a divorce mediator, I coach clients everyday on a variety of topics relating to their separation. When there are children involved, we spend a lot of time working through communication issues such as: how to tell the kids, how to set up a good plan for children and how to keep our post-separation communication…
I have been married for 20 years. To say “happily” would not be entirely true. We have had many happy times and many rough times. I think most marriages that last go through ups and downs. Being married is not easy – having kids is not easy and being with the same person for an…
Falling in love is a tale as old as time and despite high divorce rates, people still can’t help coupling up. And while love may not have changed, the circumstances of modern society have. Nowadays, people are marrying later or simply cohabitating – and are more likely to have assets of their own. Yet cohabitation…
My husband of 28 years told me he no longer wished to be married to me. It’s not “you” it’s “me” were his exact words. To say I was blindsided would be an understatement. I keep replaying his words in my mind and I just can’t make sense of it all. We were happy –…
Whether you ended the relationship, or your partner ended it against your desire or it was mutual, doesn’t matter when it comes to healing and moving forward with growth. What can often go missing during these times is to consider the fact that the purpose of relationships are to help you grow to evolve into…
A sure way to make a separation painful and bitter is to have a court battle. True, there are some hard cases that need to be decided by a judge. But many don’t, especially in today’s environment where there are numerous options for out of court dispute resolution processes, including collaborative practice and mediation. These…