A couple of years ago, a coaching client taught me a new word: Kintsukuroi (golden joinery) also known as Kintsugi (golden repair), which is the Japanese term for art of repairing ceramics with gold. I like the poetry of “there is strength and beauty in the breaks”. Times of adversity are a challenge depending on…
I am 43 and have been married for 15 years. We have three children together and are a happy couple. We have a great life together and I have never contemplated stepping outside my marriage. However I have met someone through work whom I am wildly attracted to. It was all so innocent in the beginning….
We are selling our condo. As part of that process we wanted to get the place cleaned up, decluttered, and ready. Our kitchen floors were what I would call a bit of a mess. The grout in the tile was cracked and dirty. We reached out to one well reputed contractors and asked him to…
Dan, a motivated and accomplished father in his 40s, reached out to me over a year ago on the recommendation of a fellow coach. He was already divorced a few years earlier but was dealing with ongoing litigation with his ex-partner about financial matters as well as co-parenting issues pertaining to his pre-teen daughter. His…
Divorce touches all of our lives, either directly or indirectly. In our very “modern” world, we enact many rituals: those marking birth, graduation, puberty, death, etc., but when we face the profound death of a marriage, we offer no ritual for the divorcing couple to grieve their loss together, no way to say good-bye with…
The following article is written with the intention to help you in the early stages after your husband leaves. It is a time to reflect, mourn, get your act together and prepare for legal issues and potential battle. It is also a time to empower yourself to be strong and if you have children, to…
As I write this I can’t believe how stupid I was! I mean the warning signs were all there but I didn’t see them. Either I was completely unconscious or I was in serious denial. My wife and I were married for 15 years. We actually had a great marriage at the beginning. We…
As a divorce mediator, I coach clients everyday on a variety of topics relating to their separation. When there are children involved, we spend a lot of time working through communication issues such as: how to tell the kids, how to set up a good plan for children and how to keep our post-separation communication…
I have been married for 20 years. To say “happily” would not be entirely true. We have had many happy times and many rough times. I think most marriages that last go through ups and downs. Being married is not easy – having kids is not easy and being with the same person for an…
Falling in love is a tale as old as time and despite high divorce rates, people still can’t help coupling up. And while love may not have changed, the circumstances of modern society have. Nowadays, people are marrying later or simply cohabitating – and are more likely to have assets of their own. Yet cohabitation…