The constant in life is change, yet we are frantically determined to hang on to the peopleand things we love. After a divorce or life transition the awareness of this impermanence is heightened. Besides our partner we notice that certain people in our collective havesuddenly disappeared. Friends and family that once offered love and support maynow…
At 40, after years of trying to find “Mr. Right”, I finally found my perfect match. It was a long haul… sifting through the many frogs, the horrible dates and the endless lonely nights… but when I found him, it was bliss. Something about the hard journey that makes it that much sweeter when you…
So you’ve finally finished up the settlement. You know how much assets you will receive and you know what level of financial support is expected on-going. Now what? How to budget? How to save? What will be required for my kids and for my retirement (yes, you should be thinking about that too)? Don’t put…
“Where do you see yourself in five years?” This is a question we often ask ourselves, as we set goals for ourselves or are about to embark on a new path in life. This was not the question I asked myself five years ago, when I walked out on my marriage with my five month…
I considered myself one of the few fortunate ones. Because of my legal background (practiced law for more then 8 years) and my experience as a partner in a financial services firm (my current occupation) I was all too well aware of what was ahead of me when the divorce proceedings began. I knew enough family…
What a crazy thought to think you may have to actually date again! You planned a life with the one you thought was your “forever” but life took a different turn. No one wants to be alone but the dating scene seems so foreign and scary. Back to the bars, the set ups, and the…
“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness”. Martin Luther King I know it is a difficult concept to wrap your head around and most may even call it an oxymoron, but there is a way to actually divorce with class. I…
We were driving to the courthouse for a morning of discovery.I was nervous and excited as I anticipated the moment that our eyeswould finally lock and we would chuckle at the ludicrous situation that we were in. How did we even get here? He would reach over try to engage me in conversation and we…
She was combing her hair when it happened. I didn’t see it coming. I thought we were in the middle of playing dress up or lego or some other kid game. She just hit me with it right between the eyes: “Why did you and mommy divorce?” I just stared at her, blankly… I’ll save you…
There is such a thing as a successful divorce. It’s a process… a good investment into a future of new beginnings and a not forgotten past. I became a divorcee at the age of 28 with two kids under the age of 3 and a work ethic but no career. I will never forget the words my lawyer said…