One of the hardest things to hear from a client is “My marriage is ending”! Unfortunately there have been times when I was told about it before the partner or spouse. All the changes that happen during a separation or divorce are significant but one that usually causes contention is the Finances. And, most experience…
I’ve been married for 15 years. Happily for 10 years. Unhappily for the last 5. It was a little over 6 months ago when she came through the door and said the unthinkable words. “I want a divorce!” It wasn’t working and it seemed as if it was never going to work. It felt like…
There’s a story I often share in the hopes that it inspires and empowers others. I call it: Reframing your thoughts to create the best life yet. It’s about how my engagement ring changed from a symbol of love as a couple, to love of myself. I know what you’re thinking: This sounds cliché, and this…
You are planning to leave your marriage. Or, your spouse announces his decision to end the relationship. Questions swirl. Anger and sadness compete. You need advice. Good advice should be sought in various places. In different combinations, a close relative or friend, a good book (or website!), a therapist, an accountant and an experienced lawyer…
My wife and I finally divorced 3 years ago. Not to sound cliché but yes it was a difficult process. For 4 years we fought hard. She wanted everything. Not half – she wanted it all. It was so difficult for me to navigate. Yes I wanted out of my marriage. I was so unhappy….
“Scars remind us where we’ve been, they don’t have to dictate where we are going” Unknown By the time most separated couples get to the stage where a separation agreement has been drafted, many months, if not years, have passed since the date they actually separated. Some are still living in the matrimonial home together…
I will never forget the conversation that took place on our couch. It was like a bachelor episode. It started with “You are a great person.” “You mean the world to me and “I will Always love you” BUT the marriage is over. The beginning of the end. Our situation was a mutual decision but someone had…
The constant in life is change, yet we are frantically determined to hang on to the peopleand things we love. After a divorce or life transition the awareness of this impermanence is heightened. Besides our partner we notice that certain people in our collective havesuddenly disappeared. Friends and family that once offered love and support maynow…
At 40, after years of trying to find “Mr. Right”, I finally found my perfect match. It was a long haul… sifting through the many frogs, the horrible dates and the endless lonely nights… but when I found him, it was bliss. Something about the hard journey that makes it that much sweeter when you…